“Every woman should experience boudoir shoot…true freedom is being your authentic self….why not in a teddy” –The Sultry Buxomess (Ryan Nichole Leary)
I am not an individual that has to take pictures and for the longest time, I loathed taking full length pictures. I always would take the photo or be in the middle so you cannot see!!!.When I started doing online dating, I would do my best trying to find what I thought would be appeasing to a man. So in my twenties, I still was not completely loving my body because I had yet to fully love and appreciate myself.
In 2011, my friend and dope photographer Darryl Lambert did an artist exchange. I did an oil painting of him in exchange for a boudoir photo shoot. The day before we were set to shoot, calls to confirm we’re still on, hesitantly I said sure. He told me I cannot back out and we are doing it.
Needless to say, it was the most exciting, liberating and just fun experience I have had. After that shoot I was hook and every woman needs to do it and here is why:
1. It is Fucking Liberating
Sometimes your nerves and insecurities will get the best of you, but by the time that 9th frame, your ass wish you had some damn props to fully live out your fantasy. I realized that being this vulnerable allowed to be my completely self and experience all the facets of myself. In these still moments, I have been able to love for express my dance, being creative, and just experience and revere in my own joy. A dope photographer captures your joy in you being sensually you.
2.You fall in love with your fucking body (or if you already love it, even more.)
SO I have to give a specific example for this reason. Andrew Thomas Clifton was the catalyst that my spirit needed to fully help me appreciate body. I shot with him in 2015 for a boudoir shoot and I was in nirvana. I wanted to keep my body (i.e. stomach rolls and back fat), concealed as possible. Yeah, that did not happen. I will be very transparent, the photographs are amazing, but at the time I was still not personally satisfied the way my body look. However, when he brought me my flash drive, over 700 images, I found so many that capture my beauty and essence (rolls and all). It took me to look through his eyes to marvel at my own unique beauty. I no longer saw my body as not attractive, needed to a year subscription for flat tummy teas, hire a trainer, feeling guilty because she ordered three Sunday Morning rolls at 1:00 am after drinking some high caloric alcoholic beverage; I saw a beautiful body the echoes that statuesque of the Venus of Willendorf. I saw breast, thighs, belly and booty that resemble ancient feminine idols whose bodies were the ideal image of femininity.
3. For the Culture
Have ya’ll seem the revolution? Have you seen the change in the industry in fashion and beauty where women that are not seeing themselves and created spaces for themselves. Body positive, fuck your beauty standards are a few of the hash tags we see throughout social media that are changing the dialog and celebration of full figure women. My beauty and fashion IG account is nothing but images of makeup, black women and full figure women creating looks that has my bank account on E. Slowly, I am starting to see my voluptuous women post lingerie images as well as fashion brands show plus size models wearing the lingerie. We need more women to celebrate their bodies as they are; changing the narrative of the conversation around women’s bodies, our ownership of our bodies, our sexuality and expression of our sexuality.
4. Because you want to...